Dear Deidre, Going fishing without the guilt trip! - Page 2 - Talk Angling fishing chat and tackle advice

justin case · 15th May 2008, 06:52 AM

I think you need to ask whats changed to make her think 3 times a week is not acceptable anymore,

The kids under two might be the issue but in all fairness we get in the way more than anything, I know I did .

If going isnt putting a finacial drain on the household then I dont see a problem after all there are 4 more days in the week.

you need some imput from some of the woman here

curtains · 15th May 2008, 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by jethro

the moral of my ramblings.

curtains that's easy to say when you're not in love, my darling as never once tried to
stop me doing anything. She gets all the love she deserves.& flowers & jewelry & clothes & shoes don't think I've missed anything.

i love my wife very much mate, and we spend lots of quality time together.
but all i am saying is i wont allow myself to be in the position where is was with my first wife.

my wife goes where she wants when she wants thats the way it should be im her husband not her keeper.
all i ask is the same back.

andy taylor · 15th May 2008, 05:20 PM

when i ask to go fishing the answer is the same every time "do what you f*****g want you normally do " so i take this reply as "yes sweetheart you can go fishing"

sumo's wife · 15th May 2008, 06:09 PM

I have NEVER stopped OR moaned about sumo going fishing. He has been fishing longer than he has been with me (25yrs) Sumo was 14 when we started going out with each other.

He used to tell me to meet him down the canal

I used to go and meet him and there he would be sitting on his old whicker basket fishing away. Before i met sumo i thought all that was in the canal was 'sticklebacks' i was amazed at all the different sorts of fish and different sizes there were in there.

So quite often i would go and sit and watch him fish in the evenings. He would go fishing at the weekends with his dad to various venues. So i knew from the very start of our relationship that fishing was a very big part of his life. So who was I to say he couldn't go anymore?

Gradually he learnt me how to fish with a 3m whip and i really enjoyed it.

I fished a few of his club matches on the canal with him (even though i never did really well)

As time went by we moved in with each other. the only thing i insisted on was that we had 2 fridges, one for food the other for his maggots.

When i was expecting our 2nd son, sumo was asked if he wanted to go fishing in Ireland for a week.

I told him he could go if he wanted but he saId he wouldn't if I didn't go also.

So off we went.........18 blokes, me (four months pregnant) and a 2 year old.

Anyway to cut a long story short...........I get to go fishing when ever i can around 'boroboys' football training and matches.

As some of you are aware i have even managed to beat Sumo in a couple of matches.

DEAR DEIDRE..............................MY HUSBAND DOESN'T LIKE ME GOING FISHING WITH HIM ANYMORE....................................

curtains · 15th May 2008, 06:50 PM

i know that everthing sue says is true she is one in a million (cooks a great sunday roast aswell)

jeff · 15th May 2008, 07:24 PM

Guess I'm lucky, when I retired I took her fishing down the local cut, set up an old rod in case she fancied a bash, she tried it and was hooked, now she comes with me all the time and she's better than me now and she's got more tackle, but I still have to buy the bait she won't dip into her purse for anything including paying the pool money

Oneabung · 16th May 2008, 10:41 AM

Somehow can't see my missis getting into fishing...

One day I was at gold valley when the England Ladies team were fishing there... you have never seen so many blokes with their tongues out, a woman who likes to go fishing is like a dream come true! Imagine the answer to your question "I'm fishing this weekend" as "yes love can I come too" rather than "moan moan moan... sulk sulk moan sulk, grump... your neglecting your kids, moan..."

curtains · 16th May 2008, 02:20 PM

since we met my wife has now taken up fishing, she has even joined our club and fishes our matches. (shes getting pretty good at it)
but she cant get her head round fishing in bad weather yet so she attends mostly when the weather is good.

Ebbwmilo · 16th May 2008, 03:19 PM

I have exactly the same, mine even does an hour count that I'm out! She's into singing and operatics and all that stuff.

Its not too bad at the moment but a few months back she turned around and said "my practise's are 6 hours a week, when you go fishing your out for at least 8-9hours".

I can see her point on one thing, that as she doesnt work and just looks after our 2 young children through the week, then I turn around and go fishing on a sat or sunday its another full day she has them without me there, there's been a few rows over it but she'll never stop me!!

I've been fishing for 20years + and been with her for 4!! No comparrison!! LOL!!!!!

Curtains Boss · 21st May 2008, 06:23 AM

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Originally Posted by curtains

i love my wife very much mate, and we spend lots of quality time together.
but all i am saying is i wont allow myself to be in the position where is was with my first wife.

my wife goes where she wants when she wants thats the way it should be im her husband not her keeper.
all i ask is the same back.

He's definitely not my husband or keeper - he's my underling

Afterall I am The Boss. I even send him down the pub or out fishing when I want some 'me' time and we do love each other very much.

Think we got the best of both worlds in our marriage.